How to survive the holidays with your sanity intact, Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 of the How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

Do you ever wonder how you’re going to get through the holidays without major stress?

Do you end up busting your butt to make everything perfect, just for things to fall apart?

You try so hard to buy the perfect gifts for everyone. In the hustle of the season you forgot about your cousin’s kids, and they’ve decided to come to the family dinner this year. It’s the day of the dinner, actually dinner will be served in just a couple of hours. What are you going to do now?!

Dinner is at your house this year. You’ve set up everything so beautifully. You’ve slaved in the kitchen all day making hor devours, the main course, and last minute side dishes. You’ve put the pies back in the oven to reheat them while everyone eats. While everyone is enjoying the gorgeous food you’ve prepared someone asks if something is burning. THE PIES!!!! What are you going to do now?

1st: take a deep breath, or 10.

2nd: laugh hysterically, even if you have to fake it. Eventually someone else will start laughing with you and your fake cry/laugh becomes totally authentic.

3rd: ask yourself some of the “right questions”

What are these “right questions”? Debbie Ford gives you ten in her book “The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions to Guide You to an Extraordinary Life”.

Two of these questions I use ALL. THE. TIME.

“Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?”

As a former Negative Nelly I was always looking for what was wrong with the situation. When you look for what’s wrong, that’s usually what you’ll find. Start looking for what’s right. Instead of seeing the burnt pies see the possibility of family members coming together to cut out the burnt parts and throw the rest in a bowl with ice cream and call it cobbler.

 “Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?”

As a former People Pleaser I was constantly striving for perfection because I had the silly thought that I had to have everything together so I was the star of the family. That only led me to being depressed and anxious, and broke because I was buying presents for everyone who was going to show up at my house, and of course I had to have extras just in case someone showed up unexpectedly.

Once I started asking myself some of the “right questions” I started to see my motivations and intentions more clearly. I was constantly giving my power to be happy over to others. My happy was already in me, not in the opinion of others. That, for me, was freedom from the little catastrophe’s in life. My life didn’t fall apart with every little bump anymore. These questions also helped me reframe my thinking so that I could enjoy what was going on rather than struggling to control it all.

If you’d like to learn more about the “right questions” sign up for my FREE 7-day Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge. I’ll be going over these questions, and more, in more detail, as well as some other tips I use to help me deal with my emotions in the moment so I can life a Fiercely Fresh Life. We start October 15th.

If you'd like to know more about the other tips I'll be sharing check out Part 1 and Part 2 of my How To Survive The Holidays With Your Sanity Intact series.

If you know someone else who would like to get through the holidays sanely, please share these tips and the challenge with them.

Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge

Sign up for the FREE 7-day Get Through The Holidays With Ease Challenge. 

In this challenge you’ll learn some of my best techniques to deal with your emotions in the moment so they don’t start causing chaos with those around you {or in your own head}.

Over the course of 7 days I’ll teach you some quick and easy tools to help you deal with those emotional upsets that end up ruining the holidays. I know these tools work, because I’ve gone from a woman full of anger, resentment and anxiety over the tiniest thing, to a Fiercely Fresh Bulldog who’s committed to giving up “perfection” and keeping my family close. My clients have used them with great success too!

These tips and tricks are portable so you can take them wherever you go this holiday season. You have NO excuses for NOT using them, AND they will allow you to have a Happy Holidays no matter what others are doing. Plus you can use them throughout the rest of the year to keep you balanced and happy.

By the end of the week, you'll have some really awesome, simple, and powerful tools to help you deal with situations and emotions in the moment, so you don't get sidetracked by what the outside world is doing.

Sign up today! We start October 15th.

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